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Originally Posted by doncalypso
Some people might consider this very selfish and immature of me, but I just don't see myself ever marrying a woman with a low sex drive even if she'd be the perfect person for me in every other aspect. While there is more to a relationship than just sex, it is crucial that partners be honest to each other about their expectations for sex within the marriage---especially the women because it seems to me that some women give a man a lot of sex prior to marriage in order to "reel him in" but then cut all nookie short once they've achieved their objective (get him to take her to the altar and/or have a baby).
I do not mean to sound mysogynous or anything, but I think women should be more honest about their sexual desires (or lack thereof) before they get a man to marry them because it is unfair to deny one's mate something as powerful and desirable as sex when they've taken a vow to forsake all others.
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I don't think that is immature . . . sex is an important part of a relationship . . . I wouldn't have married a man who didn't match my sex drive either . . .
And no, i don't think that sounds mysogynous . . . because men do it too!! How many times have i heard a woman tell me their husband used to give alot of oral sex and be much more attentive lovers before marriage . . .alot of times . . . Woman AND Men both are more attentive lovers before getting married . . . and then it's like many individuals think they don't have to work at their sex life anymore because they've caught a spouse . . . So, i think you make a good point . . .
Before people get married . . . they both need to be honest about what they want over their future sex lives . . . i could no sooner live in a sexless marriage than my hubby could . . . we were very up front about what we wanted our intimate life to be like . . . we've known too many people in sexless marriages to just pretend it doesn't happen to couples .. .
thanks for your points! well put doncalypso . . .