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there are some great points in this thread! as to getting tired of sex with your s.o., i think it depends on the couple. for some people, it's a very real possibility. for others, the sex just gets better as time goes by.
regarding the whole cheating thing...life is messy. you can't just break up with your spouse. divorce takes time and until you are divorced--you're still married. not like you can just call them up and say you met someone and it's over, suddenly making sex with another partner perfectly fine.
if you use some of uptown's behavior examples and toss in attempts at communication--is it then acceptable to stray? what if you have no intentions of continuing the relationship but are simply waiting for it to officially end? is it ok at that point to take on a new partner?
i keep seeing people talk about this as if it is cut and dry, but i don't think it always is. my ex and i decided to divorce about six months prior to actually starting the process (telling everyone). a large part was timing--it was a rough point to be breaking the news to family and friends. once we told everyone, it took another month to get living arrangements entirely straightened out. and from there, several more months before the divorce was actually final. in a situation like that, at what point can i (or he) take on a partner and not be cheating? technically, not till the divorce is final--approximately a year after the relationship was over. prior to that, like it or not, we were still married even if we weren't involved.
my brother was in a similar situation--it took years for his divorce to become final. so did he cheat on his wife during all the time? technically, yes...in reality though? i don't think so and i certainly don't think he's an asshole for moving on with his life in terms of relationships despite the fact he was still married.
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