Perhaps you truly don't blame anyone, however that last "Not everyone who is fighting the US occupiers are Al Queda and this is the reason why.." certainly made it appear, to me at least, you blamed the soldiers. It's truly an unfortunate incident that I'm sure everyone involved truly regrets. I cannot help but feel the driver was mostly at fault. This person [the driver] had their family in the car after dark and attempted to run a checkpoint or at the very least was attempting to acclerate past troops that was attempting to stop the vehicle they was driving. Perhaps concern for the safety of his family played into his/her fatal decision, we will never know. One thing for sure is you and I differ on opinions in this case and that's ok, it keeps everyone honest and I'd still buy you a beer
Peace!