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asudevil83 · 01-20-2005, 08:19 PM

alright here is the deal. i've got two best friends since i've known since first grade, and one of them is thinking about buying a house. he's got a pretty nice job already working for the hospital and such, and he'll be graduating college in may. and i've got another friend who's thinking about moving out again. now i potentially see some pretty big problems developing, and here they are.

1.) this guy looking to buy the house. now, the way he thinks, everything is a good idea, no matter how bad it is. he looks at all the positives and neglects pretty much every negative in a situation. so obviously to him, buying a house is a great idea....its an investment and such, and he'll get to live with two of his best friends. he doesnt realize the responsibilities that OWNING a house comes with, and no matter how he looks at it its a great idea.

2.) this guy buying the house pretty much does nothing at home living with his parents. his mom still does his laundry, he doesnt do dishes, doesnt mow the lawn, doesnt do really anything around the house. how the hell am i supposed to assume that this will change. i can see him somehow using the fact that he has money and owns the house as leverage against doing any sort of chores and whatnot. something like "i'll pay the cable if you do my laundry" and bullshit like that.

3.) this friend of ours. granted, he's a great friend, but he's already fucked up hardcore his first try at moving out. see, he moved out at the end of highschool down to tucson. he did well at the dorms, so he decided to find an apartment. this is where he fucked up. i went down to visit him a few times, and every time it was pretty much all his stoner fucked up dealer friends over hanging out smoking and drinking. he dropped out and eventually his ways caught up to him and he was evicted and lost pretty much everything that he owned except what could fit in his car. sounds great doesnt it. when he moved back up here, he took a semester off, but me and this other guy convinced him to go back to school. that lasted one semester, and now he's not in school.

4.) the two of these guys are pot heads pretty much. everything that they do involves getting stoned first. granted, i used to smoke and dont have a problem with it, but constantly being around guys that are too high to care about ANYTHING gets old....and it has.

their is probably a list of 10 more things that i could mention, but i think you guys get the idea. now, i would love to live with two of my best friends, but not this way, and i dont see them changing. now i know what i'm going to here..."it looks like you've already made your choice, and its a good one." BUT, i'm going to throw another curve ball in.

since my plan to move out is pretty much set, i've got another option. one of my other best friends is also planning on getting a new place towards the end of May, and we've talked about sharing an apartment, but she is my best friend's ex (the one buying the house). they broke up last May, and he said some things that really fucked things up...but they are finally on friendly terms.

how the hell is this going to look to him if i move out to a place with here instead of the two of them? basically i'd be picking a roomate that i trust and has shown that she can handle the responsibilities, over two guys that i'm VERY apprehensive about moving in with.

any help would help helpfully.

01-20-2005, 08:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
asudevil83 Psycho Location: Scottsdale, AZ	Moving out with friends alright here is the deal. i've got two best friends since i've known since first grade, and one of them is thinking about buying a house. he's got a pretty nice job already working for the hospital and such, and he'll be graduating college in may. and i've got another friend who's thinking about moving out again. now i potentially see some pretty big problems developing, and here they are. 1.) this guy looking to buy the house. now, the way he thinks, everything is a good idea, no matter how bad it is. he looks at all the positives and neglects pretty much every negative in a situation. so obviously to him, buying a house is a great idea....its an investment and such, and he'll get to live with two of his best friends. he doesnt realize the responsibilities that OWNING a house comes with, and no matter how he looks at it its a great idea. 2.) this guy buying the house pretty much does nothing at home living with his parents. his mom still does his laundry, he doesnt do dishes, doesnt mow the lawn, doesnt do really anything around the house. how the hell am i supposed to assume that this will change. i can see him somehow using the fact that he has money and owns the house as leverage against doing any sort of chores and whatnot. something like "i'll pay the cable if you do my laundry" and bullshit like that. 3.) this friend of ours. granted, he's a great friend, but he's already fucked up hardcore his first try at moving out. see, he moved out at the end of highschool down to tucson. he did well at the dorms, so he decided to find an apartment. this is where he fucked up. i went down to visit him a few times, and every time it was pretty much all his stoner fucked up dealer friends over hanging out smoking and drinking. he dropped out and eventually his ways caught up to him and he was evicted and lost pretty much everything that he owned except what could fit in his car. sounds great doesnt it. when he moved back up here, he took a semester off, but me and this other guy convinced him to go back to school. that lasted one semester, and now he's not in school. 4.) the two of these guys are pot heads pretty much. everything that they do involves getting stoned first. granted, i used to smoke and dont have a problem with it, but constantly being around guys that are too high to care about ANYTHING gets old....and it has. their is probably a list of 10 more things that i could mention, but i think you guys get the idea. now, i would love to live with two of my best friends, but not this way, and i dont see them changing. now i know what i'm going to here..."it looks like you've already made your choice, and its a good one." BUT, i'm going to throw another curve ball in. since my plan to move out is pretty much set, i've got another option. one of my other best friends is also planning on getting a new place towards the end of May, and we've talked about sharing an apartment, but she is my best friend's ex (the one buying the house). they broke up last May, and he said some things that really fucked things up...but they are finally on friendly terms. how the hell is this going to look to him if i move out to a place with here instead of the two of them? basically i'd be picking a roomate that i trust and has shown that she can handle the responsibilities, over two guys that i'm VERY apprehensive about moving in with. any help would help helpfully.