Carno

If you don't want or desire your spouse, why should they be forced to endure the emotional turmoil of being betrayed by someone they trust? It's not their fault you don't desire them. Plus, people have feelings and emotions, toys do not. They don't place their heart in your hands. They don't care if you play with other toys or even throw them away. Comparing a toy to a spouse simply shows the level of selfishness one has. A mature person would talk about the problems of the relationship, as they arise, and deal with them. Staying with someone until you're so bored that you feel the need to cheat is your own fault. You could have let your spouse know how you really felt, instead of keeping it in, and then cheating like an asshole.

I am of the opinion that cheating is never justified. NEVER. At the very least, you could call your spouse, tell them you've found another person, break up, and then go do your lowlife deed. I hold very little respect for people who have cheated.