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I can't help but think that perhaps she's just not that interested.
The fact that she's been abused in the past seems to be a convenient reason for why she may not be into guys for longer than a few months. But perhaps bad jane is right, and that the abuse has nothing to do with it. Perhaps this relationship just isn't working out for her.
Make sure you're not pressuring her too much. I worry that she might have told you she's not interested anymore, and you persisted, so she said she's been cheated on, and you persisted, and then the brought up the abuse in the past, and you still want to persist. Many peopel are scarred for life over even minor childhood abuses of trust, but many people get over them without this 'professional help' and don't need them as an excuse for everything they do later in life. I'm just saying that there is always the possibility that she's telling you this as a way to say 'I'm not interested' and not as a subtle cry for help.
Just a note to say that this is all obviously just in my imagination, I don't know either of you but I just wanted to say that if she's simply not interested, then being a shoulder to cry on and lending a sympathetic ear is just going to drive her further away. In the immortal words of the TFP, 'communication' is the key and try and work out if she's got issues related to the abuse, or if she simply isn't interested in this relationship.
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