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be supportive and don't push her. while sexual abuse can certainly make it difficult for some women to have "normal" relationships in the future, therapy can really help. encourage her to seek some help, either from a therapist or some kind of group counseling.
however, is that where her issues with your relationship are really coming from? is it possible she just isn't interested in a long-distance relationship? or perhaps she's looking for something that isn't in your relationship and wants to explore other options?if she's a college student, not having a relationship beyond 5 months isn't exactly off the normal charts. only she knows if it is due to issues about her past or if she's just not found a guy worth settling down with.
as to making her feel better--reassure her it isn't her fault and that her past doesn't make her any less attractive. beyond that, ask her what she needs and wants from you--then give it to her. if she says she wants space, i'm sorry. but if you love her, give her the space she needs and stay in touch as a friend.
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