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The Ballplayer · 01-15-2005, 09:27 AM

I have had a GF for about 4 months now and just lately (like the last week) she has seemed somewhat distant. I took her out to eat and to a movie last night and i could really tell. I mean on the drive home i got the worst feeling that she was going to break up with me. I asked her but she did the typical girl thing and said everything was fine.

Well i called her when i got home cause it was really eating me up. She finally opened up that she was loosing feelings for me. Mainly because im going to be going away to a different college in the fall. I want to keep the relationship going cause i will be back.

After talking awhile i learned that she really hasnt had a BF over 5 months and for some reason she ends up falling out of love with them and dumping them. Now she had told me that she had been cheated on and thats what i thought was the source of this. But i finally got her to admit that she had been sexually abused when she was younger by the father of a friend of hers.(They had gone camping).

Now i told her that i would never understand what that feels like and would never try to. But i can empathize with her. And i care for her so much and want to be there for her. I just need to know where to go from here, what to tell her, how to make her feel better about this because she says she still has feelings for me.

thanx for listening and any help would be appreciated

01-15-2005, 09:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
The Ballplayer Upright	? for Girls about my GF (Concerning sexual abuse in her past) I have had a GF for about 4 months now and just lately (like the last week) she has seemed somewhat distant. I took her out to eat and to a movie last night and i could really tell. I mean on the drive home i got the worst feeling that she was going to break up with me. I asked her but she did the typical girl thing and said everything was fine. Well i called her when i got home cause it was really eating me up. She finally opened up that she was loosing feelings for me. Mainly because im going to be going away to a different college in the fall. I want to keep the relationship going cause i will be back. After talking awhile i learned that she really hasnt had a BF over 5 months and for some reason she ends up falling out of love with them and dumping them. Now she had told me that she had been cheated on and thats what i thought was the source of this. But i finally got her to admit that she had been sexually abused when she was younger by the father of a friend of hers.(They had gone camping). Now i told her that i would never understand what that feels like and would never try to. But i can empathize with her. And i care for her so much and want to be there for her. I just need to know where to go from here, what to tell her, how to make her feel better about this because she says she still has feelings for me. thanx for listening and any help would be appreciated __________________ Funky cold madena!