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they ask, i answer. personally, i don't tend to volunteer that sort of info because i'm a rather private person when it comes to relationships (especially if the ex and current know one another or there is a chance they might meet).
if a current bf were to ask about my past--i'd be vague. if he wants to probe deeper, he can ask more questions. if i start feeling like it is more than he needs to know at that stage in the relationship, i tell him that. i handle info about their past in much the same way--if i'm not ready to hear all the details, i don't ask. but unless he murdered his previous gf, i can't think of much that would bother me. i'm not a subscriber to the philosophy that people don't change. i believe we are always changing and growing. while sometimes we are hurt by our partners and retaliate, or we simply make mistakes in a relationship--it doesn't mean we'd do the same thing if presented with similar circumstances in another relationship.
as to your situation, i'd be honest with your new gf. if she's interested in a relationship with you, then she has to be willing to accept your perspective of previous relationships. if she's going to base your feelings of her on what you had with a previous gf then she's really not ready to be in a serious relationship imo. people learn and they grow-up, hopefully she recognizes that.
but man...what the hell were you thinking dating a friend of your ex??? lol
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