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Originally Posted by Nancy
I'm pretty sure there are people out there who has no sexual boundries what so ever. Have you ever seen a chinese/japanese porn movie?
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Everyone has a boundary/boundaries.... some are just so far out there that they haven't found them yet. Case in point: There's a woman out there who makes porn videos whose speciality is animals.... She'll give an animal fellatio, and bend over and take animal dick. She also makes videos about dares... She develops elaborate scenarios and accepts dares.... from being kidnapped and gang banged to being staked out naked on a bed of fire ants. Her greatest wish? To film a snuff film. Seriously.
And yet.... She doesn't do girl/girl sex. You'd think that would be nothing compared to her "normal" sex life, but there it is. She finds girl/girl sex to be beyond her boundaries.
"Kinky" is such a subjective word.... I'm active in the BDSM community myself, and I find that my definition of "kinky" changes every time I experience a new kind of play. We're forever asking each other "What is your Kink?" Mine, for example, is sensation play. I don't care for pain, which is what most people think when they hear BDSM, or slaves and Masters (or Mistresses). But I actually crave extreme sensation. Ice and heat. Sharp and soft. I've even experienced a deprivation tank, just for the sake of discovering the "anti" sensation.
Does that make me kinky? I personally don't think so, no more so than I think that the girl I know who loves nipple torture is kinky. I have things I like that are possibly outside the norm, and those
things might be considered kinky, but I don't think that makes
me kinky. Just like everyone has boundaries,
everyone has things that arouse them that maybe doesn't arouse other people the same way. That doesn't make them kinky, either. It just means they are open enough about their sexuality to explore outside the "norm".
Possibly the only thing I think might make someone "kinky" is the person who doesn't explore their sexual needs and who represses the things that make them a sexual individual. Repression simply isn't natural in sex, and anyone who does it shuts off the best, most amazing part of themselves. And to me, that's pretty kinky.