01-12-2005, 10:00 PM | #1 (permalink) |
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how do you define 'kinky'??
I was having this discussion with someone today and it got really heated and interesting . . . How do we define 'kinky' in our sexual behavior? In our society, there isn't really a set standard . . . Each person seems to have their own way of defining . . .
To some, kinky is having the lights on while having sex . . . To others . . . kinky is bondage and having open relationships . . . etc. So, the Q is ladies . . . What is something that you do that YOU personally consider "kinky"???
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01-12-2005, 11:26 PM | #2 (permalink) |
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I would say that once you cross over to things like BDSM, role playing, etc. then you're in the 'kinky' range - things that aren't necessarily done by a majority of people. Simple things like the use of sex toys, or anal sex, or anything like that I wouldn't consider kinky at all. I guess it just varies from person to person.
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01-13-2005, 04:31 AM | #4 (permalink) |
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To me a kinky person is someone who has no sexual boundries.
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01-13-2005, 05:29 AM | #5 (permalink) | |
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How would I define kinky? I wouldn't. Every time I've thought about it (which hasn't been often really) I come up with different definitions. So why bother with defining it?
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01-13-2005, 06:21 AM | #6 (permalink) |
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Kinky - what my hair does if I let it grow past my shoulders, on a humid day in August.
Gonna ask Rick James to help out witha definition... She's a very kinky girl Ok, Rick, Why? The kind you don't take home to mother Dresses like a floozy, drinks and cusses like a sailor? She will never let your spirits down Puts out Once you get her off the street, ow girl So, she's a hooker? She likes the boys in the band Groupie She says that I'm her all-time favorite bet she says that to all the boys When I make my move to her room it's the right time She's never hard to please But never ever fakes, right? That girl is pretty wild now What makes her wild The girl's a super freak What makes her a superfreak The kind of girl you read about Has a reputation In new-wave magazine Umm, OK I really love to taste her She likesOral Sex performed on her She's a very special girl Rides the short bus special? The kind of girl you want to know because she puts out From her head down to her toenails Down to her feet, yeah Foot fetish, I get it And she'll wait for me at backstage with her girlfriends bi-sexual In a limousine Sex in a car Going back in Chinatown Sex in strange places? Three's not a crowd to her, she saysmenage a whatever "Room 714, I'll be waiting" hotel sex, what's kinky about that? When I get there she's got incense, wine and candles It's such a freaky scene Incense to cover the marijuana, hot wax, what do yo udo with the wine? Naw, not sure Rick was much help with the definition... I'll go with the Supreme Court's Definition of porn, I don't know what it is -- but I'll know it if I see it.
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01-13-2005, 06:36 AM | #7 (permalink) | |
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I rest my case
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01-13-2005, 06:44 AM | #8 (permalink) | |
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But everyone has boundries. I don't think theres a person out there who will have one hole plugged by a horse, another by a man, a third by a fist while shes being crapped and peed on while she's strangeling a midget while the midget is cutting her throat all while being filmed by the Pope. Or something like that. I think I just invented a new porn genre. I'm gonna make a fortune!
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01-13-2005, 06:47 AM | #10 (permalink) | |
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01-13-2005, 06:55 AM | #12 (permalink) | |
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Glad I brought the smiles. Sorry I grossed maleficent out though! I have a weird mind sometimes
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01-13-2005, 03:36 PM | #15 (permalink) |
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For me kinky would be defined as something out of the social "norm" of sex. Being a Catholic school girl, that would mean anything besides missionary! Haha. No, I would consider something being kinky if it had to do with bondage, cosplay, or s&m. Kinky can be good or bad. I guess it's just up to the individual to decide.
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01-13-2005, 03:52 PM | #16 (permalink) |
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several of my gal pals call me the kink queen for the simple fact that im the "kinkiest" person they know... do i think im kinky.... yes.. yes i do... im a person that isnt afraid to try anything... isnt ashamed of trying those thingfs and if asked about those things would be open and honest.... i get turned on by things that alot of girls wouldnt even dream of admitting they even thought about... as far as having boundries and limits... sure i have some... i think... ive yet to be presented with anything that crosses said boundries and limits but their are a few things that when i see on the web that do little for me.. but if im with some one that does enjoy this or that then i wouldnt be agaisnt trying it... some ppl define kinky as something that is outside of normal... i think normal is a relative term... it depends on who your friends are or who you are talking to... on here normal is kinky.. at my job or with my friends i am considerd super kinky
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01-13-2005, 04:14 PM | #17 (permalink) |
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well I guess since two people have mentioned BDSM then Im kinky.....funny, most people I know like some form of that (and im talking people NOT in the "lifestyle") spankings and stuff like that....I figured since it was so common it wasnt considered kinky anymore
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01-13-2005, 06:19 PM | #18 (permalink) |
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A fetish is using a feather during sex.
Kinky is using the whole chicken. 'Nuf said.
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01-13-2005, 06:42 PM | #19 (permalink) | |
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Everyone has a boundary/boundaries.... some are just so far out there that they haven't found them yet. Case in point: There's a woman out there who makes porn videos whose speciality is animals.... She'll give an animal fellatio, and bend over and take animal dick. She also makes videos about dares... She develops elaborate scenarios and accepts dares.... from being kidnapped and gang banged to being staked out naked on a bed of fire ants. Her greatest wish? To film a snuff film. Seriously. And yet.... She doesn't do girl/girl sex. You'd think that would be nothing compared to her "normal" sex life, but there it is. She finds girl/girl sex to be beyond her boundaries. "Kinky" is such a subjective word.... I'm active in the BDSM community myself, and I find that my definition of "kinky" changes every time I experience a new kind of play. We're forever asking each other "What is your Kink?" Mine, for example, is sensation play. I don't care for pain, which is what most people think when they hear BDSM, or slaves and Masters (or Mistresses). But I actually crave extreme sensation. Ice and heat. Sharp and soft. I've even experienced a deprivation tank, just for the sake of discovering the "anti" sensation. Does that make me kinky? I personally don't think so, no more so than I think that the girl I know who loves nipple torture is kinky. I have things I like that are possibly outside the norm, and those things might be considered kinky, but I don't think that makes me kinky. Just like everyone has boundaries, everyone has things that arouse them that maybe doesn't arouse other people the same way. That doesn't make them kinky, either. It just means they are open enough about their sexuality to explore outside the "norm". Possibly the only thing I think might make someone "kinky" is the person who doesn't explore their sexual needs and who represses the things that make them a sexual individual. Repression simply isn't natural in sex, and anyone who does it shuts off the best, most amazing part of themselves. And to me, that's pretty kinky.
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01-13-2005, 07:30 PM | #21 (permalink) | |
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02-08-2005, 08:41 PM | #25 (permalink) |
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You know kinky could mean many different things, it all depends on the individual. Most people would say that using whip cream, strawberry, or toys is kinky while others would define kinky as using whips and chains, it could mean many things. But to me, kinky would be the dirty talks, the whispering, the touches, and the list goes on.
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02-08-2005, 09:07 PM | #26 (permalink) |
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You know kinky could mean many different things, it all depends on the individual. Most people would say that using whip cream, strawberry, or toys is kinky while others would define kinky as using whips and chains, it could mean many things. But to me, kinky would be the dirty talks, the whispering, the touches, and the list goes on.
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02-08-2005, 11:07 PM | #28 (permalink) | |
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"kinky in WHO'S mind"?? I have come to believe that 'kinky' is relative to each individual sweetpea
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02-09-2005, 12:30 PM | #29 (permalink) | |
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in my mind kinky is anything that an individual feels is naughty or forbidden but likes and gets turned on by and keeps on doing
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