We totally tell each other. We have no problem telling each other if we think another person is hot....no jealousy issues at all with either of us. We are both BIG flirts and we both have the same taste in other women
Its not at all odd for us to see someone say to they other....hey baby there's one I'd love to take home with us
Attraction is natural, to be expected to "turn it off" is just not in the realm of possibility and I see more fun in using it to our advantage than to turn it into a fight.
Just like when we go to the renn fair or the highland games and I see a hot guy in a kilt....Dave SO totally benefits from that....why would he complain....same for me if he see's a busty wench.
We both have circles of friends that have people we have an "attraction" to, why supress it when it can add so much more to our lives? Jealousy is pointless and a waste of time in our opinion.
I guess thats what comes when you have total trust and no paranoia. I've never once thought "well hell that chick turned Dave on, I guess that means Im not as sexy" He lets me know every day in many ways that IM the one that turns him on the most (and I try to do the same for him) He's a man.....expecting him to not notice the qualities of another women is ridiculous.
but then again, Im also a freak and with a man thats more than willing to do a MMF threesome so what do I know