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Old 01-07-2005, 11:01 AM   #1 (permalink)
joeb1
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This one ties in with the Xbox post....

Ok... I started this thread because I did not want to hijack the "young kids and Xbox thread"

I do have some concern for my almost three year old. He has become very violent lately. At least in my eyes.

Just a couple of examples....

Our eight month old is sitting in the floor. The three year old is playing with a toy. The eight month old crawls over to where the other is playing. Sits up and grabs the three year olds toy.
The three year old turns to him and pushes him while trying to get the toy back. The eight month old falls over backward hitting his head on the hardwood floor. He was not a happy camper.

Another example would be:

My wife and I were sitting on opposite sofa's last night talking. I was on the edge of mine, kinda with my back to the hallway. All the sudden I feel this pain in my lip, with little sparkles flying around my head for a couple of seconds. It took me a while (a few more seconds) to realize what had just happened. He had his little play sword out. (It is actually kind of big for him, but belonged to his older brother when he was younger.) Yep.. you guessed it. He had whacked me in the mouth. Now it is swollen and cut. Ouch... did not see that one coming. I was very upset and left the room. My wife talked to him. My wife thought I was to harsh on him.

Would you view this as overly aggressive behavior, or just normal boy behavior? How would you deal with this?

We basically give him a stern NO! You do not treat anyone this way! You are hurting the person type response. It does not seem to be sinking in though. Even though he apologizes, he continues to do it (be aggressive). Now granted not in the same day, or week.

I sometimes wonder if he is learning this type of behavior as a coping mechanism? Maybe to deal with being the lower man on the totem pole?

He does have an older brother (12)and sister(8).

His older brother does play a lot of video games in front of him. Mostly Star Wars type games. No grand theft auto or Halo. We don't own those. I don't know if this is having an effect on him? But looking at his current behavior. I would have to suspect something is going on somewhere?

Any suggestion on how to deal with the behavior, if at all. I certainly don't want it to get worse.
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