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i think we all have the potential to be manipulative (men and women). but i think leaving a toothbrush at my bf's house ranks pretty low on the manipulation scale. even putting away his groceries isn't a big deal--unless i rearranged his kitchen in the process.
when i stay with my bf, i'm usually there for several days straight. so for me, keeping toiletries at his place makes sense (i usually have a couple changes of clothes there as well). and i do share in buying stuff for his place--especially if i plan to be there to use it. if i'm staying the weekend, i don't expect him to buy all the groceries so paying for stuff like that just seems polite, not manipulative. same goes for taking care of him when he's sick or cleaning the house while i'm there. then again, i have no desire to be a part of his household unit, my motivation for these actions is because i care about him and it feels like the right thing to do. i'd be pissed if he spent the weekend with me and expected me to clean up after him the whole time.
i think the worst manipulation i could be accused of was years ago when a bf came to visit for a weekend. i didn't want him to leave so i cried and pouted till he agreed to stay an extra day. but i learned my lesson--i felt so guilty about it that the remainder of his visit wasn't much fun anyway.
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