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Originally Posted by sweetpea
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Also: another approach that might help . . . One night, just make it all about her, give her a massage, touch her and kiss her everywhere first and tell her the whole time how attracted you are to her and how sexy she is and that you want to do nothing more than to make her feel really good and to pleasure her. . . She might just be having a confidence issue and needs to feel that you are just really, really into pleasing her because you are so attracted to her and crazy about her  |
This is called "sensate focus therapy" and it is very very important to relationships that don't generally involve cuddling. Women in general (obviously there are exceptions) tend to be insecure about receiving sexual favors when they aren't comfortable enough with their partner, and a woman who only touches her man for sex is not going to be comfotable with him. Too much sexual touch can intimidate, and the best way to fix this is to balance it with loving, affectionate touch.
That's like Bad_Janes comment about wanting her man to touch her other places. You have to be totally casual and relaxed about every form of touch in order for her feel ok in her most sensitive and vulnerable places.
The way to make this work best is to cuddle and kiss her and then NOT HAVE SEX (unless she specifically asks you to...don't want to insult her
). That really tells her you LOVE touching her, not just as foreplay but as an event itself!