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I'm having some problems with the word "Snooping" on here. If he legitimately came across the files while fixing her computer, then it's not snooping. A few years ago, I was working on my wife's computer, as she'd said she had problems printing up a document. I pulled up what I THOUGHT was the correct document, and it was personal writing of a very suicidal thought process, something she'd kept completely hidden from me. I confronted her with the truth. "Hey, I was trying to print that document for you, as requested, and fund THIS, we need to talk, and we need to talk now." She's had counseling, and turns out that post partum depression had simply been growing for a long long time. Things are great now, blah blah blah. But I would have approached a letter like our friend found in a similar way. "we need to talk" It shakes the foundations of a relationship, and it's a symptom, not the real problem. Porn, or a "damn that guy is hot" letter wouldn't have bothered me one bit.. I find other people attractive all the time. I don't find myself emotionally replacing my spouse. It's an infantile evasion to attempt to shit the blame to the one who FOUND the "evidence". It's typical of the denial from someone who does not WANT to fix the issue. We've probably all seen issues where a liar is caught in a lie, and they almost always blame the one who caught them, rather than the true culprit. In the long run it doesn't change reality.
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