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Now, the hard part: Telling my parents. No, nwlinkvxd didn't ask for my father's permission, even though I still live with my parents and I'm 18 and all. This is because my parents are...a little...strange about marriage. My parents were in their early thirties when they got married, they had no ceremony (only signing of papers), and went to Barstow ( practically a ghost town in California) for dinner- they had no honeymoon. They always grumble when we go to elaborate beautiful weddings, pointing out how expensive and stupid weddings are. My parents are already upset that I'm not going to a University of California and I'm going to a California State University instead, in order to go to school with nwlinkvxd. My parents think doing things young is stupid and they dont really like my seriousness with nwlinkvxd already.
First of all, congratulations girl!!!!
Okay, i had this almost exact situation . . . and i am 23 and have been married for 3 years, very happily, getting married young does turn out really well sometimes, although SOOOOO many people, my family included thought we were crazy to get married at age 20, but now all those people have each told me how happy they are for us, that we listened to our hearts and didn't let others decide what was best for OUR lives . . . i got engaged when i was 18 too. My parents were not thrilled at all . . . they thought we were just too young . . . but the thing is . . . when you know you've found that special person . . . you've got to hold on and just go with it . . . sometimes, it's not about age. You could wait 10 years and he would still be the one. As for your parents . . . you need to tell them gently that you're the one making choices for your life, that you appreciate their advice and support, but you are going to make the decisions about what is best for yourself. There comes a point in each person's life, where they need to start taking responsibility and making their own choices. Although, just make sure you get an education, both my hubby and i stuck to college and got our degrees and now own our first home and have stable jobs . . . just cause you're getting married, don't loose sight of growing as an individual too. Being married is really great, being a wife is lovely . . . but you are also an individual, so don't forget that you may be part of a "we", but that you are also an "I" with your own growing and exploring to do as a person. Your marriage will be alot stronger if you remember to keep your own indentity
congrats again!
harmony,
sweetpea