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Just some advice: If you want to start up a relationship with a girl online (or in person for that matter) it doesn't even matter if you bring up the other guys going after her. What DOES matter is when you start saying "nobody loves me" and "nobody understands me". I don't know how often you talk to this girl online, but it's not a good impression....and if you do it often, she'll just think you're whiney and be totally turned off. Believe me. I've known people like that in person. If you're always whining and angsty, using token phrases like "nobody understands/loves me" (how typical and 13-year-old can you get?), that might be the reason people don't love you. Oh sure, they understand you, but they want to keep their distance and stay away from the constant self-pitying.
I know that not talking about it to these people isn't going to make things better for you. Maybe you're unhappy. But even if you are, use those opportunities when you're talking to her to think about the better parts of life. And...if you do feel the need to talk about your feelings, maybe you can elaborate more. Instead of "nobody understands me", maybe you could tell a story about why you feel that way and insert "sometimes I feel like nobody understands me" into it. But at least with a story you sound more like an adult than a 13-year-old angst-ridden teen.
As for that thing about loving you as a friend...she probably does like you as a friend, but I would tend to agree with you that you can't love someone you have never met. You may be right - she may have just been saying that because she felt bad with all your self-pitying.
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