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FailedEagle · 12-09-2004, 12:51 PM

I hope I chose the correct place to put this thread. I'm in a very difficult position and need help making the "right" choice.

I started my job almost 5 years ago when I was 16, working as a cook. I have moved up through the ranks to assistant manager. Along the way I've made friends that have worked there as well. One such "friend" is a guy we'll call John.

John and I have gotten along pretty good in the last 5 years, we've become pretty close friends. He's 2 years older than myself, (I'll be 21 on the sixteenth). I've always know he's got problems, mostly dealing with anger. He's unstable, and when he goes he goes. (He's six foot three, and prolly weighs 190-200, very strong).

He went out with a girl for 4 years and recently broke up with her. She is 21 and the sweetest girl anyone could ask for. She has stuck with him through thick and thin, he's cheated on her 3-4 times and she found out about it and still stuck with him. Through all the arguements and all his anger, she still stuck with him.

Now, this girl we'll call her Sue, is who he's dating now. We just recently found out that they have had sex. Sue is 17, (Which is legal in our state). She was best friends with John's step-sister, so this has obviously severed their relationship. No one approves of this step that he has taken, however, it was his step to take. It has pretty much broken their family apart. John lives with his step-brother in a duplex, and I guess that isn't working either.

His ex and I talked for like 2 hours the other night, and she explained that she thinks he is manically depressed, she is over him and realizes that he won't ever change because he doesn't want to change and possible doesn't even realize he has these problems. She also works with us, (as does his step-mom, step-brother, step-sister, current girlfriend, and uncle . . . . yeah, I know)

Now I'm not sure how to handle the entire situation but this shit's starting to boil over. What are your takes?

Do I talk to John? Is that what a good friend would do? Should I just leave it alone? Apparently he's been talking shit behind my back recently, but he came over the other evening and seemed to be reaching for help, but perhaps it was one of his plans to "draw me over to his side". Would it be wrong for me to just let things work out for themselves? Would I be selfish to do that?

These are the questions running through my head.

12-09-2004, 12:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
FailedEagle Crazy	I need opinions I hope I chose the correct place to put this thread. I'm in a very difficult position and need help making the "right" choice. I started my job almost 5 years ago when I was 16, working as a cook. I have moved up through the ranks to assistant manager. Along the way I've made friends that have worked there as well. One such "friend" is a guy we'll call John. John and I have gotten along pretty good in the last 5 years, we've become pretty close friends. He's 2 years older than myself, (I'll be 21 on the sixteenth). I've always know he's got problems, mostly dealing with anger. He's unstable, and when he goes he goes. (He's six foot three, and prolly weighs 190-200, very strong). He went out with a girl for 4 years and recently broke up with her. She is 21 and the sweetest girl anyone could ask for. She has stuck with him through thick and thin, he's cheated on her 3-4 times and she found out about it and still stuck with him. Through all the arguements and all his anger, she still stuck with him. Now, this girl we'll call her Sue, is who he's dating now. We just recently found out that they have had sex. Sue is 17, (Which is legal in our state). She was best friends with John's step-sister, so this has obviously severed their relationship. No one approves of this step that he has taken, however, it was his step to take. It has pretty much broken their family apart. John lives with his step-brother in a duplex, and I guess that isn't working either. His ex and I talked for like 2 hours the other night, and she explained that she thinks he is manically depressed, she is over him and realizes that he won't ever change because he doesn't want to change and possible doesn't even realize he has these problems. She also works with us, (as does his step-mom, step-brother, step-sister, current girlfriend, and uncle . . . . yeah, I know) Now I'm not sure how to handle the entire situation but this shit's starting to boil over. What are your takes? Do I talk to John? Is that what a good friend would do? Should I just leave it alone? Apparently he's been talking shit behind my back recently, but he came over the other evening and seemed to be reaching for help, but perhaps it was one of his plans to "draw me over to his side". Would it be wrong for me to just let things work out for themselves? Would I be selfish to do that? These are the questions running through my head. __________________ Head over to Nonsense to sign up for the newest round Of the Trivial Racing Image Game. Hurry. Last edited by FailedEagle; 12-09-2004 at 01:16 PM..