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Originally Posted by Stompy
If you asked her and she said yes, it's her problem.
She shouldn't agree to things that she doesn't mean. Can't be any more blunt than that, IMO.
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Maybe she didn't want to get into a debate with you right in the middle of it. Maybe she expected that you wouldn't have sex with her in the first place. Either way, I don't think blame should be placed on EITHER of you. You definitely need to have a conversation about it. But just make sure that you don't go into it saying..."well you said you'd watch.." because then she will feel like she is being accused. And you will not get anywhere with that conversation. Just apologize that you hurt her feelings. And ask her how she feels and what she would want if there was a next time. This way, you are not apologizing for the actual act, as I'm sure you feel you didn't do anything wrong, but you are apologizing for the way it made her FEEL. Sometimes, that is enough. You both neglected to communicate exactly what you wanted to happen. It is just a misunderstanding so you should be able to work past it.
Good luck!