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Great advice above! Just a couple of more suggestions and a couple of echos.
*listen to what your mom wants and honor it!
*remember, this is your mom's life, your roll is to support, not decide
*be there for her as often as you can; AND take care of yourself in the process (if you burn yourself out you are no good to anyone!)
*cry, pray, rant, do whatever you need to do -- it is okay!
*join a support group.
*talk to your mom about what she wants and follow through on it (life support, chemo., radiation, silence, hand holding, people around, to be alone . . . her needs and desires come first.)
*don't be afraid to talk about the end. Ask her what kind of funeral she wants. Write the obituary together, etc.
*BUT, celebrate her life now! Tell her what you appreciate about her and the gifts she has given you.
*record her stories.
*don't be afraid to touch her.
*when you are with her, be with her -- not with the others in the room.
*and, I can't emphasize enough, take care of yourself -- cry, pray, rant, get drunk, whatever you need to do to take care of you!
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers -- best of luck and may the universe be with you!
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