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KirStang · 12-03-2004, 12:01 AM

In the past, i've noticed that whenever I directly asked a girl if there was any chemistry between us, it'd never work out, so here's the deal:

Take for example, a girl that you get along with (sorry gals...). She smiles when u talk to her, and conversation is good. You start to like her alot. She realizes this, and then becomes quiet when she's around you. So you're direct as The Original King suggests, thus forcing her to make the decision then and there, as to whether or not she'd ever consider you as more than a friend.

Therein lies the dilemma:

She has to make the decision there, and at that point, she is unsure, and is unready to make the committment, so she says "lets just be friends". However, what if you had played the game, and waited a couple more weeks....or months?

Because now she has said "no" she can not turn back on her decision and try being more than friends with you, but again, the question rises, what if you had decided to wait, or even better, to "put the game down" on her?

Something i've been thinking about....comments...?

Talk about things like..initial attraction..etc. etc?
[BTW this is just a generic scenario, i don't think other specifics come in to play]

12-03-2004, 12:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
KirStang Future Bureaucrat	Little Dilemma I've noticed with being direct In the past, i've noticed that whenever I directly asked a girl if there was any chemistry between us, it'd never work out, so here's the deal: Take for example, a girl that you get along with (sorry gals...). She smiles when u talk to her, and conversation is good. You start to like her alot. She realizes this, and then becomes quiet when she's around you. So you're direct as The Original King suggests, thus forcing her to make the decision then and there, as to whether or not she'd ever consider you as more than a friend. Therein lies the dilemma: She has to make the decision there, and at that point, she is unsure, and is unready to make the committment, so she says "lets just be friends". However, what if you had played the game, and waited a couple more weeks....or months? Because now she has said "no" she can not turn back on her decision and try being more than friends with you, but again, the question rises, what if you had decided to wait, or even better, to "put the game down" on her? Something i've been thinking about....comments...? Talk about things like..initial attraction..etc. etc? [BTW this is just a generic scenario, i don't think other specifics come in to play]