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Olorin · 12-02-2004, 01:59 AM

well, i've been discovering recently that i am, to be frank, in love with my girlfriend's roomate. i've been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and have known her roomate as long as we've been dating (they have only in the last 1.5 years been roomates).

well, her roomate, about a month ago, broke up with her boyfriend. i've always been attracted to her and had the little thought in the back of my mind, but now it is screaming at me to do something. i do love my girflriend.. but these feelings are so strong it just calls my whole relationship with her into question. how can this be the "one" when i am soooo in love with another person? it just further complicates things that i don't believe in destiny or a true love, or any of that hype...

i just feel so torn. any advice or help would be greatly appreciated. anyone who has gone through some sort of similar experience and has some sort of guidance. i mean, i feel like i am CHEATING when i touch or hold hands with my girlfriend, it just feels wrong. i don't know, its just so messed up.

i mean, i know i love this other girl.. its sooo awkward.. we are good friends. do i tell her this? it could ruin our friendship as well as destroy my relationship with my girlfriend. do i just ignore this and hope it just goes away? i've been trying and its just not working, i can't stop from thinking about what if... is honesty the best policy in a situation like this?

i've had these feelings for a couple of weeks and i let my girlfriend know that i was going through some personal stuff and wasn't sure if our relationship was what i needed.. and i have been sort of distant since then, but we are still together and i haven't shown any serious signs that i want it to be over.

so yah.. i mean, just any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. i know this is my deal and i need to figure it out on my own, but it is nice to hear what other people have to say on the matter sometimes. thanks for taking the time to read this, i know it is long.

12-02-2004, 01:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
Olorin Upright	weird situation well, i've been discovering recently that i am, to be frank, in love with my girlfriend's roomate. i've been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and have known her roomate as long as we've been dating (they have only in the last 1.5 years been roomates). well, her roomate, about a month ago, broke up with her boyfriend. i've always been attracted to her and had the little thought in the back of my mind, but now it is screaming at me to do something. i do love my girflriend.. but these feelings are so strong it just calls my whole relationship with her into question. how can this be the "one" when i am soooo in love with another person? it just further complicates things that i don't believe in destiny or a true love, or any of that hype... i just feel so torn. any advice or help would be greatly appreciated. anyone who has gone through some sort of similar experience and has some sort of guidance. i mean, i feel like i am CHEATING when i touch or hold hands with my girlfriend, it just feels wrong. i don't know, its just so messed up. i mean, i know i love this other girl.. its sooo awkward.. we are good friends. do i tell her this? it could ruin our friendship as well as destroy my relationship with my girlfriend. do i just ignore this and hope it just goes away? i've been trying and its just not working, i can't stop from thinking about what if... is honesty the best policy in a situation like this? i've had these feelings for a couple of weeks and i let my girlfriend know that i was going through some personal stuff and wasn't sure if our relationship was what i needed.. and i have been sort of distant since then, but we are still together and i haven't shown any serious signs that i want it to be over. so yah.. i mean, just any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. i know this is my deal and i need to figure it out on my own, but it is nice to hear what other people have to say on the matter sometimes. thanks for taking the time to read this, i know it is long. __________________ Sometimes I widdles the future. -Cletus