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spindles · 11-29-2004, 07:57 PM

I am quite lucky - my wife is a christian and I am not. When we first started going out, she held out some hope that I would magically convert.

We do have biblical discussions (gee - I can't talk/discuss/argue about anything, even stuff I don't believe), but that does not change our positions.

She goes to church on Sundays and I don't.

We have been married almost 5 years and it is not a problem for us.

As has been said, it is simply about having respect for the beliefs of others, without having to agree.

Edit - I just thought after submitting - this really depends on what you are expecting from this relationship - the conversation above talks about visiting - if you expect this to be a long term relationship, you really have to set ground rules early on the position you are taking - it may be that she will only have a relationship IF you change your views - be ready to walk away if things go in a direction you don't want. I made it clear to my wife BEFORE we got engaged that I was an agnostic, and would require something mind boggling big to change my view. We have mutually agreed to disagree. All her christian friends know my position and it is not an issue at any gathering (which occur fairly regularly)

11-29-2004, 07:57 PM	#20 (permalink)
spindles Mine is an evil laugh Location: Sydney, Australia	I am quite lucky - my wife is a christian and I am not. When we first started going out, she held out some hope that I would magically convert. We do have biblical discussions (gee - I can't talk/discuss/argue about anything, even stuff I don't believe), but that does not change our positions. She goes to church on Sundays and I don't. We have been married almost 5 years and it is not a problem for us. As has been said, it is simply about having respect for the beliefs of others, without having to agree. Edit - I just thought after submitting - this really depends on what you are expecting from this relationship - the conversation above talks about visiting - if you expect this to be a long term relationship, you really have to set ground rules early on the position you are taking - it may be that she will only have a relationship IF you change your views - be ready to walk away if things go in a direction you don't want. I made it clear to my wife BEFORE we got engaged that I was an agnostic, and would require something mind boggling big to change my view. We have mutually agreed to disagree. All her christian friends know my position and it is not an issue at any gathering (which occur fairly regularly) __________________ who hid my keyboard's PANIC button? Last edited by spindles; 11-29-2004 at 08:04 PM..