maleficent

Don't be the "put upon" female. If you don't think it's appreciated. Don't do it. Being a martyr doesn't mean anything until you are dead.

Let the kids find their own gameboys. Clean the house? Why bother, it's just gonna get messy again, and does anyone honestly care if there's a little dust on the bookshelf.

If you do all that stuff because you love it, that's one thing, if you are doing it out of obligation and you think that no one else will do it, then don't do the work. Eventually the guys will get the message. Don't ask them to help, tell them what needs to be done. hand one of the boys a plastic bag for the wrapping paper remnants and tell them to clean it up, if you constantly do it yourself -- they don't get the message.

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