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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
sorry for posting such a mad long convo... but if anyone bothers to read it, what do you think - is it me, is it her? Is it like she said, that I just don't get it?
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I have observed relationships of this nature in the past, and not once have I seen one work out.
Here's the bottom line: If you want a relationship with her, you're going to have to think like she does, and act like she does, in terms of religion. So if you think you should change, it's you. If you think you shouldn't have to pretend to be something you're not, it's her.
Why am I so blunt? I have Christian beliefs, and I once dated a girl who had very strong beliefs in a denomination different from mine. After a week, I began hearing questions about whether I was "serious," or if she was "wasting her time." The unspoken message was that I would need to convert to her denomination. No ifs, ands, or buts.
She had made long-range arrangements to move to another state before I met her. After six or eight months, and a few fights and makeups, she did.
I later found someone else, and I've been married to her for twenty years. I just checked the civil records of the state in which the first one resides, and it appears as if she's never been married.
My advice: Be true to yourself. You're the only one you can depend on.
P.S. When you think you'll never find anyone else, it's easy to make a mistake. Things always get better eventually.