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onetime2 · 11-23-2004, 01:45 AM

She came by last night to grab some clothes and we talked some more. Tough scene. Despite my knowing we need this, I guess I still held out that little bit of hope that it would only take a day or two for us to realize we wanted to be together more than we needed to be apart. Obviously there's not going to be a reconciliation anytime soon.

Very sad day but some good breakthroughs during our conversation. She's become a lot stronger than when we first met and I'm so proud of her for that. She was able to firmly say that she needs to be happy with herself and learn to take care of herself. Her exact statement was "I need to figure myself out and I can't do that here." So true but so hard to hear.

I'm happy she doesn't plan to move back with her parents. They would make her life miserable. They would put this break up entirely on her and belittle her for it. Thankfully she recognizes she can never go back there to live. She also says she will never go back to her abusive ex so that's a relief as well.

We're still not really broken up but we're not really together either. Maybe that will change but it seems to be the right thing for now. I'm sure we'll have lots to discuss with our therapist in a couple of weeks. Yep, we've been in couples counseling for most of our relationship. We had so much stuff to work through that we needed it and I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have made it this far without it.

Not sure I'd want to bet on us surviving this break but still holding out hope. Just woke up a little while ago with the realization that it's more likely we'll be apart than together in a year. Oh well, sometimes you've got to take your hands off the wheel and see if you're still tracking straight.

Thanks again for all the support and advice. It's nice to get some positive reinforcement.

11-23-2004, 01:45 AM	#15 (permalink)
onetime2 Junkie Location: NJ	She came by last night to grab some clothes and we talked some more. Tough scene. Despite my knowing we need this, I guess I still held out that little bit of hope that it would only take a day or two for us to realize we wanted to be together more than we needed to be apart. Obviously there's not going to be a reconciliation anytime soon. Very sad day but some good breakthroughs during our conversation. She's become a lot stronger than when we first met and I'm so proud of her for that. She was able to firmly say that she needs to be happy with herself and learn to take care of herself. Her exact statement was "I need to figure myself out and I can't do that here." So true but so hard to hear. I'm happy she doesn't plan to move back with her parents. They would make her life miserable. They would put this break up entirely on her and belittle her for it. Thankfully she recognizes she can never go back there to live. She also says she will never go back to her abusive ex so that's a relief as well. We're still not really broken up but we're not really together either. Maybe that will change but it seems to be the right thing for now. I'm sure we'll have lots to discuss with our therapist in a couple of weeks. Yep, we've been in couples counseling for most of our relationship. We had so much stuff to work through that we needed it and I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have made it this far without it. Not sure I'd want to bet on us surviving this break but still holding out hope. Just woke up a little while ago with the realization that it's more likely we'll be apart than together in a year. Oh well, sometimes you've got to take your hands off the wheel and see if you're still tracking straight. Thanks again for all the support and advice. It's nice to get some positive reinforcement. __________________ Strive to be more curious than ignorant.