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Originally Posted by StephenSa
I don't know, I just think the partner that makes significantly more should bear a bit more weight if the couple is going to live the lifestyle of said partner. I'm going to sit her down and have a long talk about budgets and my reality sometime in the near future.
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The situation that you are could easily lead to resentment (if it hasn't already). That is a terrible thing to have in a marriage. Have you thought about inviting her to to read what you have written here? I introduced my wife to the TFP as a forum discussion with some insightful and mature viewpoints that I was enjoying and I thought she might enjoy as well. She joined up and it has stimulated some interesting discussion between us on a few topics. Some times people find it easier to express themselves when writing to a group than when talking face-to-face with their S/O. Of course, that assumes she is a computer friendly type and open to this type of discussion. It sounds like you have some reasonable concerns that are not being heard in your relationship. Open up the lines of communication through whatever means necessary. If you let it go on and do nothing about it, don't be surprised when it comes around and bites you in the ass.