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raeanna74 · 11-15-2004, 06:53 PM

A woman is a partner. The man and woman are working toward a common goal in marriage - that is to make the marriage a successful cooperative effort. In any team the members take certain roles and those roles change as needs change. When hubby and I married I unconsciously took a very submissive role, as that did not work for me at all I very shortly began to nag and boss him, that didn't work either. Later he had a serious injury and was a bit incapacitated for a good 3 months and was unable to drive during that time. In that time I took over the finances completely, made a lot of decisions for the family and basically ran things. Since then Hubby has taken a more active role and I've stepped back some. We are to the point now where we each step up and take care of the roles that we do best and we communicate as much as possible to each other what roles we are choosing to take and what we need the other person to help with. I have primarily take the role of caregiver for our child. That is because my college training was in education and that is what I do best and enjoy. Hubby enjoys cars, he works outside the home in a car dealership and when he's home he helps to maintain our own cars. I am capable of changing the oil but he enjoys it and I take other responsibilities.

Marriage needs to be a balance. The different partners should be attempting to take the roles that fit them best and to try to allow the other partner to do the same. There needs to be constant give and take and communication. No marriage is able to manage an utopia but it should be what we strive for without stressing over it. Don't let the little things bother you.

Now as to what roles a wife takes in other cultures and religions - you'll have to ask them. If you look even at the Bible for what a woman should do - Check out Proverbs 31. It describes a woman who makes sure meals are prepared, the family is clothed, runs her own business (selling girdles), buys and sells property (for farming), and manages the servants of the household. Granted we don't live in that day and age but it describes a renaissance woman who is capable of much more than submission, companion, servant, or baby breeder.

11-15-2004, 06:53 PM	#13 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	A woman is a partner. The man and woman are working toward a common goal in marriage - that is to make the marriage a successful cooperative effort. In any team the members take certain roles and those roles change as needs change. When hubby and I married I unconsciously took a very submissive role, as that did not work for me at all I very shortly began to nag and boss him, that didn't work either. Later he had a serious injury and was a bit incapacitated for a good 3 months and was unable to drive during that time. In that time I took over the finances completely, made a lot of decisions for the family and basically ran things. Since then Hubby has taken a more active role and I've stepped back some. We are to the point now where we each step up and take care of the roles that we do best and we communicate as much as possible to each other what roles we are choosing to take and what we need the other person to help with. I have primarily take the role of caregiver for our child. That is because my college training was in education and that is what I do best and enjoy. Hubby enjoys cars, he works outside the home in a car dealership and when he's home he helps to maintain our own cars. I am capable of changing the oil but he enjoys it and I take other responsibilities. Marriage needs to be a balance. The different partners should be attempting to take the roles that fit them best and to try to allow the other partner to do the same. There needs to be constant give and take and communication. No marriage is able to manage an utopia but it should be what we strive for without stressing over it. Don't let the little things bother you. Now as to what roles a wife takes in other cultures and religions - you'll have to ask them. If you look even at the Bible for what a woman should do - Check out Proverbs 31. It describes a woman who makes sure meals are prepared, the family is clothed, runs her own business (selling girdles), buys and sells property (for farming), and manages the servants of the household. Granted we don't live in that day and age but it describes a renaissance woman who is capable of much more than submission, companion, servant, or baby breeder. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.