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Originally Posted by Janie
The story goes, we hit it off, we got together. Fast forward ~4 months:
We have the PAST HISTORY conversation. I'm young, I'm clean, and I don't have a large number of past hookups (6 not including my current man). He asks, and I tell him things like who, when, why. Four out of six are one-night stands. He freaked out completely. Sex is really important to him, and he believes one-night stands to be wrong. After this first conversation, for 4-5 months we continually had arguments about my past, with him making comments like "How could you possibly do something like that?" and overall making me feel like an unworthy whoring slut who cares nothing for the wonders of the loving relationship. We were apart for the summer, and he finally told me my past doesn't bother him anymore...
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In all honesty, I understand his point of view because I also hold myself and others to very strict standards when it comes to sex and relationships. However, given the fact that what you did in your past was in the past and that you probably gave him no reason to suspect you'd ever cheat on him he had no right to make you feel dirty and whorish.
I've been cheated on too, so I can definitely understand why your past would scare him because he's afraid that you might cheat on him like he'd been cheated on.