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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
There are some of us as adults that need to remember that being your teens FRIEND and not a parent is a plan for disaster.
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I think that is a lot of it. No one wants to be the bad guy, and if you wait to long you can't be the bad guy when its needed.
Kids do need to find themselves when they grow up, but I think its wrong to assume that doing so requires them to be jerks, be it at age 14 or at 30.
If they respect their parents they will not do a lot of the 'jerk' things out of fear of what their parents will think. Not what their parents will do, but out of the fear of disappointing them.
I work with kids everyday, ages 6-18, and its a rare day I see a 'bad' kid with what seem to be good parents. While not everyone will react the same, some kids have different personalities, some have anger issues etc, I think often the blame is on the parents and saying that teens need to act out in a destructive manner is just a cop out for being a poor parent.