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hrm... seems to me that the grass is always greener on the other side. you are attracted to this person because she is not who you are with right now. you only see the positive aspects of going out with her and none of the negetive aspects of your current relationship.
imo: you are with the person or you are not. I have never been a "date multiple people" kinda guy, so I am a bad judge of this area. But dating multiple people is different from your situation. Someone that "dates" would never claim to have a girlfriend. By definition, that changes the aspect of the relationship to a new level and carries a bit of commitment the implies manogamy. I know there are swingers on this forum that would argue with me, but I don't think this is the same stiuation.
Bottom line... if you feel terrible about it, then don't do it. You are your own person and can make your own decisions. I know I try not to do things that make me feel bad.
Or... you can think about it this way... how would you feel if she did it to you? What if she said... "Honey, I really think your buddy is a real hottie. You wouldn't mind if I went out with him would you?" If it kills you to think about her doing it, then it is probably killing her thinking about you doing it.
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