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kollege_gal2000 · 11-09-2004, 08:59 AM

See, that's the problem. We aren't married, and we are not living together.

A typical situation.

We will be hungery and I will suggest a restaurant. I will even chip in the fact that I'll pay for it. If he is having money issues, he'll make a comment that we don't have the money for that.

The way I work is this: If I suggest a restaurant, I suggest it with the intent that I will pay for it, and I have money in the bank to cover the transaction.

We usually end up in a fight/argument over the fact that he does not know what is in my bank account, and he has no right to tell me how to spend my money.

I do understand that if we were married or even perhaps living together then ok. He can give me advice on "how" to spend my money. However, like I said we are neither living together or married.

Do you by chance think that it has anything to do with him knowing that I make more money then he does and perhaps it is a "control" thing, or maybe even "insecurity"

Advise on this would be great.

11-09-2004, 08:59 AM	#7 (permalink)
kollege_gal2000 Tilted Location: Edinburg, TX	See, that's the problem. We aren't married, and we are not living together. A typical situation. We will be hungery and I will suggest a restaurant. I will even chip in the fact that I'll pay for it. If he is having money issues, he'll make a comment that we don't have the money for that. The way I work is this: If I suggest a restaurant, I suggest it with the intent that I will pay for it, and I have money in the bank to cover the transaction. We usually end up in a fight/argument over the fact that he does not know what is in my bank account, and he has no right to tell me how to spend my money. I do understand that if we were married or even perhaps living together then ok. He can give me advice on "how" to spend my money. However, like I said we are neither living together or married. Do you by chance think that it has anything to do with him knowing that I make more money then he does and perhaps it is a "control" thing, or maybe even "insecurity" Advise on this would be great. __________________ I am not afraid of tomorrow; for I have seen yesterday and love today!