CityOfAngels

Love really is a two-sided sword, in many ways more than one.

Love can bring you happiness when you're with your significant other. Yet it can bring you into a deep depression when you lose that person, and have no hope of rekindling what you've once had.

Love is a necessity; it is clinically proven that without love and compassion, we can die. Yet if you have too much of it, you can tire of it and build up unrealistic expectations that never seem to be fulfilled.

Love is all about trust and giving from the bottom of your heart. Yet if you're the only one contributing in those factors, your relationship is doomed.

Your love is pure and completely unselfish. Yet you'll always find people who don't want anything to do with it.

The reason I mention love so much is because it is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Without love, it's just sex; just fun and no heart. Yes, I agree that if you're committed to a relationship that you should work on it until it is absolutely, definitely hopeless. But that's just the thing; sometimes it is hopeless. The main thing that makes certain relationships hopeless is the misunderstanding of what love really is. A person can tell you that he/she loves you when what they really love is your sex, wealth, or image. They construe love to be a selfish tool, when it's really a selfless leap of faith. Because they see it as a selfish tool, they have this mindset that they can always do better. When in fact they're right; they CAN always do better, but love doesn't care what and who is better than whom. Love is completely dependant on the person you love, not yourself.

I'd be willing to bet that most divorces are the product of a selfish relationship where at least one person decides that they've finally reached the tier above their spouse. It is when all these tiers and goals and wishes don't mean anything anymore that you know that you are truly in love.

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The words "love" and "life" go together. It is almost as if they are one. You must love to live, and you must live to love, or you have never lived nor loved at all.