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As you mature and grow older, as they typically go together, you realize that life is all compromise, and nothing is black and white, good or bad, right or wrong. Relationships are rarely ALL good or ALL bad. And they certainly shouldn't be solely based on the views of one side of the relationship. It is CRITICAL that both parties participate, roughly equally (averaged) in a relationship or it will die.
My relationship with my wife is tumultuous at times, but we keep each other in check. We find the middle ground and find compromise, even if we scream at each other.
When you're young, don't compromise, look for your ideal. If you have a personality which compromises and accommodates people, you will find your ideal quickly and live happily ever after. If you don't, you will search a long time, and you MAY find your ideal, for now, and want to move on to the next ideal, since it is likely that to meet your ideal, the other party will have to sacrifice parts of their identity to fulfill your ideal. Then once you get over this, you will compromise and accommodate, and find lots of GREAT people in your life, including your new, more realistic ideal.
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