SpoilSport

Spots, I feel for you, man, I really do. But, and no offense meant, you have the wrong idea here. Going into it with that mindset, you're courting disatrous results. Now, I don't know you and I don't know her, but my guess is if you upset the little emotional ecosystem she's got set up here, she's going to either: a) lose her mind, 2) try to make you jealous, d) move on to someone she can get to play her game.

Is this really worth all of this upset? And again, no offense meant - you might feel that it is and I do not mean to belittle your feelings in anyway - but it is not. A lot of us have been there. It almost always ends the same. The waking up from that daze when you have finally had enough and shaking your head at what a fool you've been and how much time, effort. and money you've lost.

If you are in a relationship where you have to play mind games (again, forgive the wordage, I don't know how else to put it) to get the desired results, you should, at that point, cut bait and move on. There is nothing to do except that make sure that you start out a relationship NOT being the doormat. Be the kind of person you are for her for someone that will appreciate it and love you back for it.

I wish you luck, I really do, and hope that you know that we are here for you if you need us for words of encouragement and chiding you for mistakes we've already made.