little_tippler

I agree that's a pretty good sign.

It's a shame you don't feel the same about her. Or are you just not sure? I haven't heard you say anything here about what your relationship with her is like. Of course you can tell if you have it good. Only you can say. What's right for one person isn't right for another. Are you happy? Do you have pretty much everything you could hope for in her? Is she good for you and are you good for her? What do you feel for her, if not love? Tenderness, friendship?

I think you need to identify where you stand with her first, before you go, still confused, and have fun with her friend. That's running away from one problem and into another. Otherwise you may find yourself in the state of that old saying, "you don't know what you've got till it's gone".

I also suspect that your girlfriend needs you to give her some reassurance, which I imagine is well deserved - a person can't go on forever in a one-sided relationship.

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918