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strcrssd · 11-07-2004, 10:47 PM

Well, today my girlfriend and I were relaxing in the tub and she asked me what I was thinking about.

The only problem is, that I was thinking about being in the same situation with her and a mutual friend. As I have promised her (and her me) not to lie, I mentioned that she "probably didn't want to know". She insisted, and I told her.

This led to a long discussion about the situation. She loves me, and I don't know where I stand with her. I've never experienced love, I don't think. I honestly don't know what it feels like. I know that some describe it as "putting the other's life before your own", but I don't know if I could ever do that (I'm being honest).

Anyway, it all boils down to that I like this mutual friend (more her friend than mine) physically, and somewhat mentally (I don't know her that well). My girlfriend has given me her reluctant permission to go out with her, and, if it comes down to it, have sex with her.

I'm not looking for "whoo hoo!" or "that's a truely terrible idea", as I know it is in fact both...however, I am looking for any advice anyone is willing to offer on the situation. I don't want to break up with my girlfriend (and we're not broken up), and at the same time I want to be honest with our mutual friend, while still giving her a chance.

I haven't really experienced many relationships, and because of it I'm somewhat afraid that I don't know how good I have it with my girlfriend, but I do know that I'm still attracted to other women (and my girl).

Anyone have any intelligent comments?

11-07-2004, 10:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
strcrssd Insane Location: Rio Grande Valley, Texas	Seeing other people -- I feel like an asshole. Well, today my girlfriend and I were relaxing in the tub and she asked me what I was thinking about. The only problem is, that I was thinking about being in the same situation with her and a mutual friend. As I have promised her (and her me) not to lie, I mentioned that she "probably didn't want to know". She insisted, and I told her. This led to a long discussion about the situation. She loves me, and I don't know where I stand with her. I've never experienced love, I don't think. I honestly don't know what it feels like. I know that some describe it as "putting the other's life before your own", but I don't know if I could ever do that (I'm being honest). Anyway, it all boils down to that I like this mutual friend (more her friend than mine) physically, and somewhat mentally (I don't know her that well). My girlfriend has given me her reluctant permission to go out with her, and, if it comes down to it, have sex with her. I'm not looking for "whoo hoo!" or "that's a truely terrible idea", as I know it is in fact both...however, I am looking for any advice anyone is willing to offer on the situation. I don't want to break up with my girlfriend (and we're not broken up), and at the same time I want to be honest with our mutual friend, while still giving her a chance. I haven't really experienced many relationships, and because of it I'm somewhat afraid that I don't know how good I have it with my girlfriend, but I do know that I'm still attracted to other women (and my girl). Anyone have any intelligent comments? __________________ "I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones." -- John Cage (1912 - 1992)