You have 3 options.
One, call it off and save yourself for a future girlfriend
Two, Enjoy the blowjob, but understand you're leading this girl on. You already said she had a huge crush on you. If you let things get sexual with her, she'll think she's got a chance with you.
Three, get in a relationship with the girl to give the sex "meaning"
My opinion on the whole thing is that sex isn't as special and meaningful as you think. You're degrading casual sex as an activity on the whole because it doesn't contain the closeness that it has when you are in a relationship. Well newsflash; the meaning and closeness you seek from relationship sex is already there before you get it on with your girl. The sex is just an activity that allows you to express that meaning and emotional closeness in a very tangible way.
Just because this girl isn't a long term significant other does not mean that the sex will be anything other than fantastic, nor will having casual sex corrupt this other form of sex you hold in high regard. It's just lacking in the emotional bond that you feel with a significant other (which is in place before you have sex).
Right now you seem to be weighing the pleasure you want to recieve with what you think are the questionable ethics of casual sex. That to me is not the hard issue here. All you have to do is make a decision on which you want to do. The thing i'm having a problem with is this bit:
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I've been talking to this girl who has developed a pretty big crush on me. I, however, don't have the same feelings for her that she has for me.
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She wants to further the relationship between you two. For me, her offer of a BJ means she wants to take your relationship to a sexual level- what she hopes will be an emotional level. There is no such thing as no strings attached. By accepting her offer, you'll be leading her on, manipulating her. It WILL get wierd, it WILL mean the friendship is over. She'll either become a fuck buddy, drift away after a few months, or be your girlfriend. But the whole mutual aquantainces thing will be over. I've been in this situation, and i've seen it before. My best buddy went through the same thing and tried to stay friends with the girl- i've never seen a more akward relationship in my life. I guess that's all i have to say.