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la petite moi · 11-06-2004, 01:59 PM

So my mother has breast cancer. They've already removed it and she's going through chemotherapy. She has become obscene with her language, screaming the F-word at my sister just because she won't vaccuum to floor a third time in a row in three days (my mother is obsessive-compulsive). My sister is actively trying to be sugary-sweet nice to my mother, spending time with her, trying to be her friend, and yet my mother is still wallowing in self-pity and misery. She likes to whine about wanting to commit suicide and makes my sister think it's her fault that my mother wants to get a divorce.

She also thinks she should get anything she wants. She has a room and a half to herself, her own pet bird, five closets, and a bathroom...all to herself. My dad has half a room, a closet, a shares a shower with my sister and I. My sister and I share a room and our closet, and have to share a bathroom. She rags on my dad, saying that he does nothing for her, while my dad is at work for twelve hours at a time, making money for the family. She thinks that my dad should do nothing for himself, and instead should take time off to spend with her, since she doesn't work. Now she's even trying to make everyone else do housework. Just the other day, my dad was leaving for work and said 'I love you' to my mom. My mom's reply was: Don't worry, the house will be clean when you get home.

Now, my dad has been extremely patient with this whole thing, and has told me that there are times when he just wants to blow up. Finally, this morning, my mother was going CRAZY at my sister, kicking her and telling her to fuck off because my sister wouldnt vaccuum for a third time in a row in three days (like I mentioned before). My dad came downstairs, trying to tell them to calm down. My mom wouldn't listen, so my dad just started screaming too. My mother continued yelling, and once my dad left, my mother still yelled at my sister, telling her 'Yes I know I'm just soooo self-centred, and maybe your father and I should just get a divorce." My sister now thinks that it's her fault, and I'm shaken up about the whole thing.

I just don't know what to do. How am I supposed to help? I don't want to be their friend because I doin't like being criticised about things I do, but I feel bad for my sister who wants to get along with my mom.

11-06-2004, 01:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Confusion as what to do with Parents...What am I supposed to DO?! So my mother has breast cancer. They've already removed it and she's going through chemotherapy. She has become obscene with her language, screaming the F-word at my sister just because she won't vaccuum to floor a third time in a row in three days (my mother is obsessive-compulsive). My sister is actively trying to be sugary-sweet nice to my mother, spending time with her, trying to be her friend, and yet my mother is still wallowing in self-pity and misery. She likes to whine about wanting to commit suicide and makes my sister think it's her fault that my mother wants to get a divorce. She also thinks she should get anything she wants. She has a room and a half to herself, her own pet bird, five closets, and a bathroom...all to herself. My dad has half a room, a closet, a shares a shower with my sister and I. My sister and I share a room and our closet, and have to share a bathroom. She rags on my dad, saying that he does nothing for her, while my dad is at work for twelve hours at a time, making money for the family. She thinks that my dad should do nothing for himself, and instead should take time off to spend with her, since she doesn't work. Now she's even trying to make everyone else do housework. Just the other day, my dad was leaving for work and said 'I love you' to my mom. My mom's reply was: Don't worry, the house will be clean when you get home. Now, my dad has been extremely patient with this whole thing, and has told me that there are times when he just wants to blow up. Finally, this morning, my mother was going CRAZY at my sister, kicking her and telling her to fuck off because my sister wouldnt vaccuum for a third time in a row in three days (like I mentioned before). My dad came downstairs, trying to tell them to calm down. My mom wouldn't listen, so my dad just started screaming too. My mother continued yelling, and once my dad left, my mother still yelled at my sister, telling her 'Yes I know I'm just soooo self-centred, and maybe your father and I should just get a divorce." My sister now thinks that it's her fault, and I'm shaken up about the whole thing. I just don't know what to do. How am I supposed to help? I don't want to be their friend because I doin't like being criticised about things I do, but I feel bad for my sister who wants to get along with my mom.