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thinkng · 11-05-2004, 12:38 PM

A week ago today my wife told me she has feelings for an old high school boyfriend (15 yrs ago), but hasn't acted on it yet. She's always promised it's just a friendship, but fell into it deeper. We're seeing a marriage counselor now, but the anxiety I get when we're not together is killing me inside. Lots of foodless days, sleepless nights and crying. She has been reassuring me that she just needs the space to explore her independence and our relationship will probably be okay. We are still living together, sleeping in the same bed and she comforts me when I need it. But we are not emotionally connected and she doesn't have any "desire" for me but does love me. We've been married for 13 years, have four kids, plus I work at home.

Any advice on how to cope with that sinking feeling of loosing it?

11-05-2004, 12:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
thinkng Upright	Coping with anxiety during a emotional separation? A week ago today my wife told me she has feelings for an old high school boyfriend (15 yrs ago), but hasn't acted on it yet. She's always promised it's just a friendship, but fell into it deeper. We're seeing a marriage counselor now, but the anxiety I get when we're not together is killing me inside. Lots of foodless days, sleepless nights and crying. She has been reassuring me that she just needs the space to explore her independence and our relationship will probably be okay. We are still living together, sleeping in the same bed and she comforts me when I need it. But we are not emotionally connected and she doesn't have any "desire" for me but does love me. We've been married for 13 years, have four kids, plus I work at home. Any advice on how to cope with that sinking feeling of loosing it? Last edited by thinkng; 11-05-2004 at 12:40 PM..