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Originally Posted by Locs
The one point that bugs me is the "No relationship is perfect, and you need to work hard to make it last".
Bullshit. You can't fool yourself into being happy. This is an illusion.
I am NOT saying relationships are perfect bliss, but people who think if they just stay with the person, and talk more, and express themselves more, that things will go just fine after a while are in denial.
Its called lowering expectations. Its called "settling".
We are on this planet for a short time. Have fun and be happy. You cannot make someone else happy unless you are happy with yourself.
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I don't see working hard as fooling yourself into being happy. I see it as working hard to get to a point of happiness. There are times that it is not possible, but that is a whole different apple. The real problem today, no one wants to work for anything anymore. We expect it to be dropped in our laps.
My wife and I have an amazing relationship, but I won't lie and say that it has been all peaches. It has been very hard at times not to give it up with the excuse that I'm fooling myself and things won't change or get better. The harder you work for something, the more you appreciate it!
As for settling, there is a certain amount of settling that everyone has to do. It is part of life, not everyone will be king, not everyone will be rich, not everyone will be famous. The question is, do you search your whole life for something and not find exactly what you are looking for or do you "settle" with a little less a work toward what will make you happy. I'm not saying that you should keep the first relationship you come across, just not rule out one just because it is not perfect or exactly what you want. I can guarantee that you are not EXACTLY what you SO wants!