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cmc · 11-03-2004, 06:34 PM

Ah ... how easy the world could be - would be if we spoke the simple truth directly to each other.

As in, 'Hey I hear you're interested in me. I am appreciate you telling me that. Perhaps you think you've even got romantic / partnership feelings toward me. If so, again, I feel flattered. Is that what you're telling me ?'

< You answer, either YES or NO. As in NO, I just like you as a friend. Or YES, I really want to put this relationship into high gear>

The other person then says, 'now that you feel I understand you, I want you to understand me. I don't have those feeling with/ and or toward you. Period. Therefore, 'WE' can't be having a REAL romantic relationship because we both don't have romantic/partner feelings for each other. ( Finish with) I want to be platonic friends with you, but that's all. Please let me know if you are interested in being platonic friends, if you will. BINGO - 'know the truth and THAT truth will set you free' !

< No ambiguity, no dished feelings for finding out later the other person didn't trust enough to be simple, directly and personally honest with you.>

Just clarity, honesty, and peace of mind. FYI - that is how I handle it, and yes, I've been on the receiving end of such a conversation too. It hurt for about 10 mins. Not 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months or 10 years or worse.

AND - each time I've said or heard those words, I felt a divine reassurance that my day would come, and that I would be REWARDED for being direct, gentle and honest. Sign me, been there, done that, have too many T-shirts. Good luck !

11-03-2004, 06:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
cmc Crazy Location: usa	Ah ... how easy the world could be - would be if we spoke the simple truth directly to each other. As in, 'Hey I hear you're interested in me. I am appreciate you telling me that. Perhaps you think you've even got romantic / partnership feelings toward me. If so, again, I feel flattered. Is that what you're telling me ?' < You answer, either YES or NO. As in NO, I just like you as a friend. Or YES, I really want to put this relationship into high gear> The other person then says, 'now that you feel I understand you, I want you to understand me. I don't have those feeling with/ and or toward you. Period. Therefore, 'WE' can't be having a REAL romantic relationship because we both don't have romantic/partner feelings for each other. ( Finish with) I want to be platonic friends with you, but that's all. Please let me know if you are interested in being platonic friends, if you will. BINGO - 'know the truth and THAT truth will set you free' ! < No ambiguity, no dished feelings for finding out later the other person didn't trust enough to be simple, directly and personally honest with you.> Just clarity, honesty, and peace of mind. FYI - that is how I handle it, and yes, I've been on the receiving end of such a conversation too. It hurt for about 10 mins. Not 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months or 10 years or worse. AND - each time I've said or heard those words, I felt a divine reassurance that my day would come, and that I would be REWARDED for being direct, gentle and honest. Sign me, been there, done that, have too many T-shirts. Good luck ! Last edited by cmc; 11-03-2004 at 06:38 PM..