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Originally Posted by Spotila
She wrote to me saying it was ok for me to complain about things, tell her my problems. Where now she seems to be more dismissive... if I were to bring up a relationship problem I fear I'd be ripped apart. But you get nothing if you don't try, right
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Watch out for trying to make her talk if she doesn't want to or isn't ready. That alone could make the arguement worse. I'm a talker and my wife is a silent thinker and I sometimes have to force myself not to talk right away. Before you launch into a relationship discussion, ask her if she wants to talk about it or start with something very minor to see if she explodes.
The part about being ok to complain kind of sets off a bell in my head. The times that I've heard that, it has not been a good time to talk about the relationship, because the tone has already been set. It is just complaining in her eyes.