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Ok, well to answer Locs question from my point of view, I think you need to find out if she's telling you the truth about why she's stopped messing around with her friends' underwear.
a) She never liked it in the first place and was only doing it to please you, which I think is a good thing. She was good, giving, and game (which I think is what Dan Savage always says). Partners should try and accomodate the other sometimes, if that means giving oral even if you're not really in a sexy mood, or the man giving the woman a backrub even if he doesn't want to, or doing the dishes, or running a bath, anything like that. Mabye she stopped doing it because it was getting a bit out of hand.
b) Maybe she did really enjoy it but after you two split up (and got back together it seems) she doesn't like what you guys did. Tell us, did your breakup have anything to do with that? Was it due to sexual reasons? Because if it was, eg. if she thought you were getting a bit too freaky for her to handle, or if it turned out that really was a fetish (and you couldn't get off any other way), or she thought all the sex was only fulfilling your desires (maybe her desire is romance, rather than kinkiness) then it makes sense that she'd want to quit that activity and get back to more vanilla sex.
I think you should work, and tell us, why you two broke up, and whether that has changed her outlook. If it was your fault you two broke up (if you cheated, for example, or you initiated it) then it makes sense that she doesn't want to be so open anymore, and she's a bit wary.
Maybe her friend even found out what you guys were up to and asked her to stop it. I sure as hell wouldn't be happy about my friends doing that with my clothes behind my back, that'd be grounds for an ass-kicking I think. I would NOT be happy about that at all. Maybe she's embarassed that her friend asked her to stop and she's too ashamed to tell you.
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