Eric640

Allright, this is a really long story story so if you're easily bored then this isn't for you.

I'm 18 years old and I've dated 3 girls in my whole life. I don't know how wierd that is, I guess if I go by my friends examples then it's average but who knows. Anyways, I've never really met my girlfriends parents except in pasing up untill this relationship. I'll get into this later.

This girl I am dating now is named Allie, and she is 18 also. I've been seeing her for 8mos.

Now we met in highshool and now that highschool is over, we've gone to different universities. She goes to Miami of Ohio and I go to Medical College of Ohio. We are seperated by about 200 miles. She lives on campus @ Miami, I live at home since Its only about a 15min drive to my school. This isn't the issue though, we've always known this would happen.

Allie is supposedly bi-polar. I say supposedly because I have NEVER seen the symptoms. Whatever the case my be, weather it's a for real thing or an imagined or mis diagnosed thing, I guess I don't really care. It doesn't affect our relationship in any way so I am not worried about it. She does take medication (very expensive medication at that) for it off and on.

Heres the thing though, this "disorder" has led Allie to have an extremely close relationship with her mother. Allies mother is VERY involved with her life and VERY protective of her. They talk EVERY NIGHT, and I mean EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. Now somehow I've earned the trust of her mother, I don't know why but I've become as close to her mother as I have to Allie. Allies mom considers me a part of their family... and it's getting scary.

First there's the whole phonecall issue. It's LONG DISTANCE to call her. I buy those 300 minute phonecards for like 30$ at the store so it's not OUTRAGEOUSLY expensive to call her, but still. If I call her everynight then I' eat one of those phonecards every week or two.

I can't afford that!

So my frequency of calling her has gone down. Somehow her mom found out about this and now shes inquiring about why I don't call Allie more than once or twice a week.

Secondly, Allie doesn't have a car on campus and she doesn't have a drivers license either. Now it's a 200+ mile drive down to her campus and Allies parents are still supporting her. Allie comes home fairly often and her parents have been driving her back and forth. Lately, in the interest of helping them out a little, (and being able to see Allie more often) the last two times I split the work with them. I drove down to pick her up and they took her back. This drive is absolutley exhausting (6 hrs round trip of over 400mi) and my car is OLD (95 Escort, 160,000mi) it CANNOT take the abuse of driving like that and I NEED my car to get to school.

I can't afford to replace my car if it breaks, and if I keep driving it this hard it's just a question of time untill it gives out. Again, let me state: I need my car to drive to school, if my car breaks and I can't replace it I WILL NOT be able to go to school untill I replace it.

Her mother now expects me to provide some %age of the transportation and has been actively making me feel bad about it when I refuse.

Now Allies mom is starting to push other things on me. First of all she's had conversations with me and directly asked me questions like "are you dating other people" and alluded to things like "I don't know exactly where this is going but...". Now I don't know what to do.

I LIKE this girl. I don't want to leave her. I want to dump her damn mother.

Heres another thing her mom has told me. "I just don't want Allie to get hurt, if she finds out you're seeing other people she could get depressed." (because of her supposed illness) Now come on, I'm 18 and let me tell you, this is NOT the last girl I will ever date.

Just for the record I'm not seeing anyone else right now, nor do I have any other active interests.

I don't want this relationship with her mother and I'm tired of being made to feel GUILTY about not calling her ofen (it's long distance) not driving 400mi to pick her up (my car CANNOT take the abuse) and I don't know but I'm starting to get the idea that her mother would be REALLY happy if we got engaged at Christmas or something and I'm at no where NEAR that level of commitment.

I'm scared.




PS: Hopefully this made sense. It's kind of a long story with a lot of details and I skipped around a lot so if something doesn't make sense I'll clarify it, just point it out.