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Boylan · 10-29-2004, 11:17 AM

DISCLAIMER: Poster is from the land of the Superficial (aka Long Island, NY) and may have his point of view severly skewed
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One thing to be aware of, and this is coming from experience is becarefule when you DO find someone who is really into you.

As a big guy (6'0" 240 lbs) I have blindly walked into relationships with women which were, frankly, drop dead gorgeous. While I count myself lucky that i had relationships with women my Tommy-Hilfiger-model-look-a-like-friends wow at there was always an issue with them. In my experience a lot of these women are very needy. They have been hurt a lot in the past, usually dumped, cheated on, abused in some way etc. And they think that because we're bigger guys and "don't have the same options" we'll be safer for them, and all to often they treat US the way they have been treated in the past.

I don't want to bring anyone down, and I know not all women are like this but it really seems that insecure/heavy/nerdy guys get hit the same way. And lets face it, those who have been less than lucky in love tend to have big hearts and we want to help. Just be careful.

I totally agree with a previous poster (Im too lazy to scroll up and see who) and going to Match.com is a great thing. I've had a few dates and a some short relationships from that site and I have been happy with it. Nothing has really panned out, but its helped me figure out more of what I'm looking for in a woman. (and how to screen out the needy pyscho-baggage-chicks)

Long story short - We heavy guys have a chance, don't worry. Just be careful, you may be happy you found something good, but don't jump in without really looking.

10-29-2004, 11:17 AM	#25 (permalink)
Boylan Upright Location: Long Island	DISCLAIMER: Poster is from the land of the Superficial (aka Long Island, NY) and may have his point of view severly skewed __________________________________________________________ One thing to be aware of, and this is coming from experience is becarefule when you DO find someone who is really into you. As a big guy (6'0" 240 lbs) I have blindly walked into relationships with women which were, frankly, drop dead gorgeous. While I count myself lucky that i had relationships with women my Tommy-Hilfiger-model-look-a-like-friends wow at there was always an issue with them. In my experience a lot of these women are very needy. They have been hurt a lot in the past, usually dumped, cheated on, abused in some way etc. And they think that because we're bigger guys and "don't have the same options" we'll be safer for them, and all to often they treat US the way they have been treated in the past. I don't want to bring anyone down, and I know not all women are like this but it really seems that insecure/heavy/nerdy guys get hit the same way. And lets face it, those who have been less than lucky in love tend to have big hearts and we want to help. Just be careful. I totally agree with a previous poster (Im too lazy to scroll up and see who) and going to Match.com is a great thing. I've had a few dates and a some short relationships from that site and I have been happy with it. Nothing has really panned out, but its helped me figure out more of what I'm looking for in a woman. (and how to screen out the needy pyscho-baggage-chicks) Long story short - We heavy guys have a chance, don't worry. Just be careful, you may be happy you found something good, but don't jump in without really looking.