Well tiltedbc I read what you have to sya and you have a pretty well organized and thought through opinion.
It's just that I know she isnt playing head games. She's too dumb, lets just say that. Me and her are just not on an equal intelligenve level at all. this bugs me at sometimes since I love to have intelligent conversations frequently and she hates talking about anything logical. She really avoids reality and bottles things up. There is no way to tip toe around things with her either. She is a closed book, and there's no key that can open a lock without a hole.
I had to work with her tonight, and its the first time we've seen each other since the day I phoned and put a stop to everything. At first there was pretty much silence and avoidance between us, but eventually we started to talk again. I wanted to clear things up so I casually asked her what she did the day that I wasnt able to see her due to the fact of me sleeping all day. She flipped and said "You fucking ditched me I don't care. I didn't want to listen to it before and I don't want to listen to it know". She's like that when she's pissed off. So I just have to wait for her anger to lower enough where we can start talking as friends again. That's if we want to be friends.
My favourite part of the night though was when she turned to me and said " you have this problem with always being right you know that". I bit my tongue very hard and replied with " thats ok im an ass anyways ". This was about the best reply I could come up with that wasn't filled with anger and retribution. The two that I had to bite my tongue for were " no, you have the disability of being a moron and are incapable of being right" and " well you put me in an akward since if I agree then im right, and if I disagree then im still saying im right. Either way your mad because your head is up your ass" Both are pretty much true though. I later relished my silent victory to a fellow co-worker and we had a good laugh since she completely agreed.
Now back to you wanting my advice. I really dont know what to say exactly because the hardest person to understand is yourself. Here it goes though. I try to avoid everything about the person I really do. Disconnect yourself from all material abjects that remind you of her. A nice thing to do is constantly remind yourself of reasons why you dislike them and regard everything else. Eventually in my case I wil have built a mental wall to block all emotions out and them too. Its a hard struggle. Do not let that statement be underestimate you. The best way though is your own method just work with what you know.
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