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have confidence in yourself. there's people with all sorts of tastes, fetishes, etc. not all women are shallow and into looks, as long as you provide everything else.
my friend's a huge guy but everyone loves him, he doesn't get down on himself and the confidence he has is really refreshing for people. he just acts like it's no big deal, he doesn't necessarily draw attention to it with self-deprecating jokes but he doesn't pretend he's never seen a mirror either.
i've talked to a few of my friends and they agree it's not so much the extra physical weight, but the emotional weight they're worried about. the impression is if they get involved with someone with a weight problem, they're gonna have to deal with the "oh poor me syndrome" and no woman wants to deal with that. "if he can't carry his own weight i don't know how how he expects me to" was something i remember- referring to the emotional baggage. generally the farther you look like someone from GQ or Maxim the more self-concious you become.
it's like diabetes, just a endless deprecating loop. break it.
bottom line - if you can't accept/love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
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