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Originally Posted by impulse03
Girl #1: One of my ex's best friends and pretty good friend of mine. I know she used to have a thing for me. I dunno if I should go for her or not simply because she is so close to my ex...
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I think it's a pretty bad idea to date a friend, or within your friendship group. I've never had a good experience with that. Unless you can remain friends with her if you break up (like your current situation with your ex) then the mess created after a breakup in a friendship group puts a lot of strain on everone. It can force people to choose between friends, it causes jealousy, she wonders if she can confide in her friends because they're so close to you, you wonder if you can joke around with your mates without them telling her, your friends feel burdened with the both of you confiding in them... the list goes on and on. Dating in a friendship group is a bad idea in my opinion. I think it's a little like incest actually, you want to branch out and date brand new people and diversify!
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Girl #2: I used to be really close friends with this girl in highschool although nothing more ever developed. She is smoking hot, but I havent really talked to her much lately. We used to see each other all the time, but now we goto the same college and rarely see each other. We dont really talk much online anymore (we rarely talked on the phone), but I still have her SN. IT could be kinda awkward talking to her and wanting to hang out considering we have barely talked in in a good 6 months.
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Girl #2 would be a better shot than Girl #1. You know her, but you don't really know her well. Call her up or send her a message and point out that you'd like to catch up with her for a drink (or a coffee, or a milkshake, depending how old you are!) and just see how things go from there. I really doubt she'll say no to that if you don't consider it a date. If you have coffee with her, just chat and talk about what you've been doing lately, and then by the end you can decide if you'd like to ask her on a real date.
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Girl #3: This one is kinda weird so bear with me. This girl is a basically a friend of a family friend. (does that make sense?) I never really got to know her, but she is very attractive and seems like a genuinely good person. Now are family friend had a grandfather pass away this past week and at the viewing I saw this chick. She has always been at gatherings but we never really talked much beyond them. I would really like to get to know her, but I dont know her phone # or SN. Thus, I would have to get them from somebody else and that can just look pretty crappy for me. Also, out mothers are good friends and have talked about us getting together for a long time, so that has potential awkwardness, but I can deal with it if she can.
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Don't worry about any awkwardness with the parents, I don't think that's as bad as awkwardness between friends. You don't really know her so it's a nice fresh start! Don't ask around for her number, that seems a little creepy. Maybe ask your parents if they know their home number, and just give her a call, say who you are and that you're sorry for her loss (was it her grandfather?), and that you'd like to take her out for coffee one day. It might be a little weird for her if she doesn't know who you are, that's why you should introduce yourself. I think that's the way to go, or you could see if there's a family picnic or get-together coming up anytime soon (and if there isn't, perhaps organize one) and make sure she's invited, and then say hi to her there.
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Girl #4: I work with this girl. She is really cool, attractive and just an awesome person. I would love to get to know her better outside of the workplace, however I dont know if she has a bf, but that can be found out easily. She is also pretty flirtatious with me so that's cool. The only problem here is that I dont know her phone number or SN either, she is fairly new and we work together only 1 - 2 times per week. (resturant). Also her brother, a year older than me, works at the same place, but I think he could be cool with it. How safe is it go get involved with a fellow worker?
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I think it depends on the future of your work. It's a bad idea to date in the workplace when you're older, if it's a stable career environment. But if you're younger and it's a part-time gig (I hope you don't take offence, but I gather you're young, maybe late teens or 20?) and you only work together twice a week then I don't think there should be any awkwardness, and if there is then you should be able to hide it. She sounds like a winner to me. Don't wait to find out if she has a boyfriend before you ask her out, just one day ask her if she wants to have a drink after your shift, and the conversations following will most likely reveal if she's got a partner.
Don't worry about being short, there are just as many tall people as short people, and just as many regular people too! It's always said here that it's your personality that wins in the end. I'm surprised you're ready to date after only two weeks, but if you really are ok with everything then that's great. I think you should go for the girl at your work, but don't put a label on it until you find out if you really like her. Otherwise, the family friend girl might be the way to go.